Thankyou, Friday, for arriving at last – you have taken your sweet time! This week has been a testing one. Poor sleep and punishingly early wake up calls have seen me dragging through each day, trying to maintain a happy and patient attitude with Jacob, whilst wishing I could just crawl back under a duvet and sleep for a thousand years! I guess it is teething but who knows. My friend has been experiencing the same with her little girl and we joke that after a great night’s sleep we think: “Motherhood is awesome! I want to have four children!” and after a bad night’s sleep we think: “My family is complete.” This has been whittled down to a simple early morning text message to each other: “One child or four?” Got to love other mummy friends!
There are a few things that really help me to get through difficult days like these. Venturing outdoors is a big one. Jacob and I have been out for daily wanders in the crisp autumnal air and tested out our new Ergo carrier, which is a very happy addition to our lives! I used to love tucking him into the stretchy sling when he was tiny and carrying him around like a baby kangaroo. He is too heavy for the sling now so I decided to invest in a sturdier alternative. The Ergo is so comfortable and designed to support you and your baby properly. I like to carry him on my front and he holds onto each of my hands whilst we take our usual stroll around the lake and greet the swans and the ducks. We also went on a family walk last Sunday up on Box Hill and Danny carried Jacob around on his back like a little monkey. It feels good not to fuss around with the buggy sometimes and I think Jacob enjoys this mode of transportation!
Whilst at home, I have been trying to take each day slowly and not do too much around the house. This definitely isn’t the season for deep cleaning! I prioritise keeping on top of food and laundry because everything starts to crumble if those aren’t maintained. The tumble dryer has seen more use than average lately. I also aim to do my daily chore (Mon – dust, Tues – bathrooms, Wed – sweep and mop, Thurs – bins, Fri – hoover) but they aren’t always done to the highest standard when I’m worn out. When Jacob naps I rest, otherwise I feel like I am running on empty all day. I also think it is important for him to see chores being done around the house when he is awake so that he can practice entertaining himself for a bit.
Oh and I forgot to mention – he has learned how to crawl! Actually, it’s more of an SAS Commando slither but it gets him from A to B. He is very happily discovering the world around him by overturning the bins, pulling books off the bookshelf and disappearing under furniture. A whole new world of mess awaits! In spite of all this, I still absolutely love being a stay at home mum and I think it is a real privilege to provide a happy and cosy place for my family to live. I read somewhere that mothers often create the atmosphere of a home and I desperately want my son to grow up in a stable and loving environment and for Danny to come back to that each day after work. Honestly, there were were occasions this week when he came home to no dinner, a frazzled wife and a screaming son, whilst skidding over cucumber and bread sticks on the floor, and I’m sure it won’t be the last time either. That is just real life sometimes and thankfully Danny is very accommodating! But the goal is there anyway and I’ll keep working hard to make our home a fun and relaxing place to be.
The other thing that helps me is to try and make the most of the season that we’re in. With that in mind, we have been lighting lots of candles, drinking mugs of hot chocolate and reading good books as the darkness creeps earlier and earlier into our afternoons. I have been busy in the kitchen making jam tarts and chicken casseroles for Jacob to try and leaving the oven door open to warm us up a bit! We’ve crunched through leaves and enjoyed the playground with friends and tomorrow Jacob will be dressing as a pumpkin for a little Halloween party with the other NCT babies. Life is packed with wonderful things to experience and I don’t want to let fleeting things like sleepless nights steal away my joy. Happy weekend, my friends!