I am enjoying these long summer days so much. The weather has been chipper, plenty of friends are about and Danny has started to work two days a week in an office nearby so he gets home early on those days. Yay for more family time! I hated the thought of him missing out on Jacob’s early months. When he gets home early he takes over bath time, so it is not quite the gentle calming experience that I tend to make it; there is lots of splashing, swimming and water fountains! Jacob emerges soaked and delighted, and more than ready for bed. We have also introduced bath toys, every single one of which goes straight into Jacob’s mouth.
I tried hard to create a routine in recent weeks and it has thankfully paid off – much better than I thought it would! After a little experimentation with timings we now have a routine in which Jacob has his evening bath at 6pm followed by pyjamas, milk and a story and then he goes to bed at 7 on the dot. The first time we tried this he shouted for quite a while with me popping in and out to reassure him and by the next day he only shouted for about 3 minutes before dropping off. He has moved into his own bedroom now because he outgrew his Moses basket so I bought a video monitor to keep an eye on him. A monitor is not strictly necessary but I felt more comfortable with it and I like being able to watch what he’s up to! He gets up between 7 and 8am and greets me with the most enormous gummy smile which is the best start to the day. He still wakes two or three times in the night for short feeds. He used to only wake once but I think the hot nights and all the growing has made him thirstier. I’m hoping this will reduce when he starts having solids! *Please?!* Two hours after waking I put him down for a morning nap and he sleeps for about 2 and a half hours which is fantastic. This is my time to read my Bible, get dressed, do housework, meal plan etc. I also try and have relaxation time if possible. It is without doubt the best thing about his new routine!
I have worked out a few other ways to stay on top of the housework with a little person in tow, because to me having an orderly home makes me feel calm and organised. I have two baskets which I cart around the house, carrying washing and any other stray items that need to go back where they belong. I find it so much easier to just put everything into one of these baskets and then take it upstairs/downstairs all at once rather than making multiple trips! Having three floors after previously living in a flat takes a bit of getting used to. I try to stay on top of the laundry and the dishes as a priority because if they don’t get done then the whole system starts backing up. I do one or two loads of laundry everyday – usually putting the washer on first thing in the morning. I try, and usually fail, to remember to water my garden. I hope I can give it a bit more attention next year.
I do not for one moment regret choosing to stay at home with Jacob- I absolutely love it and I know how fortunate I am to have that opportunity. Some women juggle so much and I really admire them. I feel like I have reached a really lovely stage with Jacob now that he is four months old where I mostly know what I am doing and what he needs. I don’t feel so clueless or clumsy anymore although I know there will be plenty more to learn as he grows and develops. One day I know I’ll look back on these days with a serious case of nostalgia! Heavens I already look back wistfully on his tiny baby days…